My husband & I are incompatible – Is my marriage successful?

Picture this:

Boy meets girl.
She is boisterous, he is quiet.
They fall in love & get married against a backdrop of speculations.
She loves publicizing her views, he keeps everything private.
She hails from a strict convent background & has studied under the Delhi Board.
He completed schooling from a modest school under the state board.
She has never lived in a hostel, he has lived in a hostel for more than 5 years.
Her parents live in a bunglow in South Mumbai, he has always lived in a flat as part of a modest neighbourhood in North Mumbai.
She loves writing, reading, meeting friends, gossiping and watching cookery shows.
Her favourite romantic moment is a long walk on the beach that ends with a candlelight dinner. She prefers writing/reading over watching television.
He loves TV (more than biwi?), analyzing stuff, breaking circuits & mending them, his idea of a romantic evening is lazing on the couch watching sports.
Both are good-looking, talented and ambitious.
Each is headstrong and competitive in their own way.
He is assertive, she is aggressive.
While he calculates a move, she is a bindaas risk taker.
They are post graduates and pursuing their doctoral studies.
While they were dating, most people around them swore by the fact that this relationship was an infatuation. Some even lay bets on how long the marriage will last.

An incompatible couple. Is their marriage successful?

She leaves the bathroom, he enters. He quietly puts the cap on the toothpaste and pushes the tube back in the right way.
She brings the newspaper to the bed and patiently waits before he reads it.
He folds it correctly after she reads it.
She gets ready for work and piles the rejected lot on the bed. He organizes it.
She lays out poha for breakfast – he loves it. She hates poha.
He plans his day by using the tools on his smartphone. She writes down every little point in her book.
She ensures that she plans to leave early – he hates being late.
She loves talking non-stop in the morning. She doesn’t – he loves quiet mornings.
They exchange a kiss and leave for work. The hug says it all.
There are a lot of daily chores remaining – the tap is leaking, cable subscription needs to be renewed. He is better than her at all this. He forgets.
She sets reminders on his phone so that he can plan the chores at his own pace.
Once at work, she hates being disturbed. He is always worried about her. He doesn’t call her. She ensures she updates him regularly with routine stuff. She sets reminders so that she doesn’t forget.
She loves her independence. Hates telling anyone about her whereabouts. He is the only one who knows.
She opens her laptop and writes, while he is watching TV on full volume.
She uploads important moments of her life on the social media. He watches silently.
They dine at a seafood joint, she loves it. He hates seafood.
He loves to think before he speaks about anything. She swallows her impatience and waits for him to reply with a decision. At times she takes a decision and makes him believe that he did it.
She loves flowers and he feels it is a waste of money. He ensures that he gifts her flowers at least once a week.
When she gets angry, he allows her to express. When he gets angry, she allows him to play Candy Crush to ease him out.
He participates in cricket matches. She takes care of the kids and ensures she watches the matches and discusses with him.
He loves football. She closely follows his favourite club and updates him with news and scores.
He has never even killed a mosquito but he can kill anyone who harms her. The tomboy in her bows only to him.

They love dancing. They dance whenever they feel low.
They love movies. They watch their favourite movies together.
They love discussing religion, politics, Bollywood.
Discussion and understanding form part of their daily routine.
They agree to disagree on almost everything.
He loves her craziness. She adores everything about him.
Both adjust effortlessly. Love allows it.

Many moons later, they are still together. Very much in love, yearning to spend every moment together. They still feel like they are dating.

— Mayura Amarkant

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